They Found Her....but....

On November 4th 1998, the probate court had given the Elizabeth Lund Home 30 days to locate my birthparents before scheduling a court hearing. The agency, at that time, had a staff member who conducted the court ordered searches. On December 15th, the day before my birthday, the agency called me to tell me that they had found my birthmother Irene and had spoken with her. Irene told them that she was old and had put that part of her life behind her and did not want any sort of contact with me. The woman from the agency tried to get Irene to acquiese, but she simply was not interested. In a last ditch attempt, the agency gave Irene their address and suggested that she might be interested in writing me a letter, through the adoption agency.

The agency called me at work to tell me that Irene wanted no contact with me. I was devastated, so hurt and rejected. I felt like I'd been given up again. I couldn't believe that she didn't want to connect with me. I'd been searching for so long and had such hope. I thought that it would have been easier if the agency had found that she was deceased - at least she wouldn't have rejected me again. What a miserable birthday present. And why, you might ask, would the agency think that calling her the day before my birthday was a good idea? I cried and cried.